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Jul 17

Sales Success Requires Listening, Not Telling

By John Aberle | heart-centered , Sales Training

Despite sales training by generations of traditional sales trainers who emphasize the importance of a good presentation, sales success requires listening, not telling. Think about it. It’s really the old Golden Rule at work. Do you really care how good somebody’s product is before you know that the salesperson has truly heard and understood your situation and your needs? You want a solution, not a product.

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Sales Success Requires Listening, Not Telling

Rushing to Start Telling Your Story Can Cost You a Sale

While some people are technology buffs and really care about specs (specifications), most people only care about a product or service’s ability to solve what they want. If you rush into your presentation before you deeply understand what they want and what their situation is, you risk Continue reading

Feb 01

How to Ask a Closing Question

By John Aberle | How to , Sales and Marketing

Graphic of hand to ear for listening

How to ask a closing question? Ask then ask and wait patiently for your prospect’s answer.

Although I used to hate this piece of advice, I must say that sales trainers could really get your attention with the following advice: “When you ask a question …” Then he would pause a moment and next he would yell, “SHUT UP!” He would finish with, “He who talks first loses.” For some people this attitude works. But if you care about building trust and relationships, it’s not a matter of win-lose. So if you want to sell and market with heart, you can have a better approach to how to ask a closing question, one that leads to a win-win.

 

It’ all about your attitude. Where are you coming from when you ask your closing question? (By the way, a closing question is one that asks the prospect to make a decision that leads to a purchase. It may be an intermediate step, like, “What color would you want?”) Heart centered salespeople should know very well what their prospects want before they get to the “close.”

The following are some of the main things you need to know:Continue reading

Nov 25

Gratitude Sets the Right Attitude

By John Aberle | Gratitude , heart-centered , Sales and Marketing

Picture of John Aberle on Thanksgiving 2009
John Aberle presents the family’s 2009 turkey prior to carving

Happy Thanksgiving! I hope you have as wonderful a Thanksgiving as I expect to have. This is my favorite holiday of the year because the theme is so simple. As I mentioned in my title, “Gratitude sets the right attitude.”

In sales and marketing as well as in life, being happy starts with being grateful. It’s amazing how often it’s the negative experiences that teach us some important lesson, provided we are ready to listen to our inner voice. Sometimes just waiting out the apparently negative experience shows us that things really did work out better.

I recently tweeted about Jay Leno’s guest Garth Brooks singing “Unanswered Prayers.” This song is about the blessings life can give us when things don’t go as we want them to. In selling and marketing, this is so often true. If you can rise above your frustration enough to look for the lesson or the kernel of opportunity hiding in the painful event, you may find your magic bean. Don’t undervalue empathy. It’s the humbling experiences of life that make it easier for us to relate to the pains and desires of our prospects.

Thank Your Higher Power, by Whatever Name, for Life

So, for me, Thanksgiving comes down to gratitude to our Higher Power, God, Holy Spirit, Universe, The Force or whatever you call that energy which is greater than we individually are. I especially enjoy spending the day with family and sharing an abundance of delicious food, especially turkey and fixings as well as Thanksgiving’s special desserts. Dorothy even makes special pumpkin pies I can eat with Coffee-Mate instead of milk. We’ll play games afterward, including a family favorite, “Pass the Trash.”

Gratitude for My Blog’s Readers and My Community

I treasure you who read my blogs and, especially those of you who go on to join my mailing list for with you I will build a community of business people who care about selling and marketing with heart. I started this my first blog, HelpCustomersBuy.com, on November 26th, 2008 with a post for Thanksgiving. This Thanksgiving message is my 141st article on heart centered, soft sell sales and marketing. My other company blogs are so much newer, but I cranked them up this year too: AberleEnterprises.com and Aberle Consulting. Thank you for reading.

I’m also thankful to Examiner.com for the opportunity to become a freelance restaurant reviewer as the Anaheim Restaurant Examiner. On September 30th, I celebrated my first year. I posted my 52nd article on Examiner.com on November 19th, 2010 with “Big Thunder Ranch serves up fabulous BBQ in a Western ranch setting.”

I am fortunate in having so many friends and loving family. I hope that you too enjoy this holiday filled with gratitude for your blessings, lessons, and gifts of this past year. If you want to be happy, remember, gratitude sets the right attitude.

If you care about selling and marketing with heart but haven’t joined my community yet, I really encourage you to sign up for Aberle Consulting list. You’ll find the box in the upper right corner of this site. Right now, I’m giving away an ecourse: 9 Steps to Finding Prospects Who Want What You Provide eBook and 9 separate lessons.

Oct 13

Sales Motivation – Remember, There’s more to Life than Money

By John Aberle | Sales and Marketing , Sales Motivation

Graphic from Wikipedia of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

Maslow described different levels of motivators

Can you be bought? What inspires you to extra effort? Will you do anything to win a trip even at the expense of your relationship with your customer? Obviously to the heads of Enron and WorldComm and a huge number of people in the financial industry, massive amounts of money overrode all other considerations. How do you feel about that?

Surveyed employees usually put money as 3rd of 4th in importance

As a management consultant for an international company specializing in small to mid-sized businesses, my co-workers and I often surveyed our clients’ employees to find out what was most important to them in their jobs. Interestingly, money was the most important motivator to only a fraction of the people we surveyed. For most, there’s more to life than money because they ranked it third or fourth in importance. Ahead of money were things like job satisfaction, recognition for a job well done, being part of a successful team, challenging and rewarding work, flexibility in work schedule, educational opportunities and opportunity for advancement.

Especially fascinating is that most small business owners and their managers were surprised. To most people I’ve known, this position sounds strange for a sales trainer and former sales manager to make. It is universally accepted that you motivate sales reps with money and material gain, like trips and bonuses. The thing is, I myself, am rarely motivated solely by money – and I have noticed lots of other salespeople who aren’t either.

Don’t get me wrong, money is a strong motivator for us, or we probably won’t make the effort to overcome a natural reluctance to make prospecting calls and deal with rejection day after day. Besides that, few really good salespeople work only a 40-hour week. We’re studying, researching for prospects, preparing presentations, or doing paperwork, sometimes even attending networking events after normal work hours.

Heart centered salespeople put clients ahead of immediate gain

But heart centered salespeople prefer the soft sell approach. As such, you won’t pressure clients just to win a trip or a bonus. Soft sell means that you care about serving the customer first; making a commission follows. Because of this, you may work extra hard to win a contest; you may even talk with your prospects about moving up their timing, but you value your relationships and your prospects’ trust too much to use high-handed techniques to manipulate them into buying now just for your gain.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs applies to sales rep motivation too

To understand this better, look at psychologist Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. The most basic needs motivate people first. These form the foundation, the bottom of the pyramid. As you satisfy those needs, they lose their ability to motivate you to take action so you progress up to still higher needs. The higher you fall on this pyramid, the more likely you are to value heart centered sales and marketing. Keep in mind, as things in your life change, you can regress down the steps to more basic drives.

Remember, salespeople are people too. That means some are definitely motivated strongly by money and achievement; they respond well to hard sell. They love the game of “I win; you lose.” But the more you operate from Love/Belonging, Esteem, and Self-Actualization, the more likely you are to find greater satisfaction in heart centered sales and marketing that uses soft sell over hard sell. For you, there’s more to life than money alone.

Aug 29

If Sales Calls to You Are Win-Lose Battles, Read No Further

By John Aberle | heart-centered , Sales and Marketing , Soft Sell

Don’t read this graphic

If you like hard sell, don’t read to this article.

If you like the hard sell approach, if sales calls to you are win-lose battles, then selling to help customers buy won’t work for you. Heart centered, soft sell sales and marketing is all about caring for your customers first. But don’t get misled by the term “soft” sell because soft sell is still about selling.

Difference between hard sell and soft sell

The difference between hard sell and soft sell comes down to a matter of priorities. Are you there to provide a service, to help first or is the most important element in the sale whether you get the order regardless of how well your solution works for the prospect. The service approach of helping customers buy is the heart centered, soft sell sales style. The attitude of needing to beat the prospect so as to get the order is the hard sell attitude.

Ironically, they both work some of the time. However, people who are service oriented, who really care about helping their prospects, are likely to feel a little bit of themselves shrivel up when they use the control, manipulation and pressure techniques to win at the expense of their prospect or customer.

The advantages of heart centered approach

The other irony is that, in most cases, while the heart centered approach can take longer while you probe to undercover what the real issues are and what you prospects need to fix or want to get and what it will mean to them, this is the best way to connect with them so that they know, like and trust you.

And having them know, like and trust you is the only “shortcut” to repeat sales. Customers want to feel appreciated as people, not just as wallets waiting to be picked.

If you’ve read this far, presumably sales calls to you are opportunities to connect with customers, to provide a service instead of being win-lose battles. Learn how to help customers buy. You’ll enjoy your sales profession more. In fact, you’ll find selling fun, fulfilling and mutually rewarding.

I invite you to check out my post on my consulting blog, “Do you hate selling? It’s possible to love it.” This article includes my first YouTube video talking about loving selling.

Aug 12

Three Heart Centered Sales and Marketing Sites

By John Aberle | Blogging , heart-centered , Sales and Marketing

Picture of Aberle Enterprises aStore screen

Aberle Enterprises Reading List on Amazon Affiliate Store

If you read my previous blog, “HostGator Shines as a Host for WordPress Blog” you know that I moved this blog to HostGator. Well, I also moved Aberle Consulting to HostGator too. Then I set up my new hub site, Aberle Enterprises.

Each of these sites has related but slightly different purposes.

  • Aberle Enterprises is my hub for marketing other products and services I’ve found helpful to my sales and marketing. In most cases, they will be people I feel practice heart centered and soft sell sales and marketing themselves. On occasion, I will also recommend someone who has such valuable information to impart that I will share them too even though I am not comfortable in my own mind that they are soft sell. I will do my best to caution you when that is the case and explain why I recommend them anyway.
  • Remember that the defining difference between hard sell and soft sell is whether your emphasis is on the sale and commission or profit first or on helping the customer buy what he or she wants and needs with the sale coming after you understand the customer’s desires.
  • Besides books, I’ll recommend e-courses, ebooks, teleseminars, and seminars or conferences that I believe can improve your sales and marketing knowledge and skills – when applied.
  • I will also market my own books and courses here. Watch for Ban Cannon Fodder in Sales Management – coming soon.
Picture of Aberle Consulting website with 1st video

John Aberle posts first YouTube video on Aberle Consulting site

  • This blog, Help Customers Buy, will continue to be my primary site for blogging or writing articles on heart centered, soft sell sales and marketing. In addition, I will write about social networking, social media, Internet marketing, and traditional marketing.

All three of these sites are dedicated to promoting heart centered, soft sell sales and marketing. I want to help you connect with your prospects or prospectors and customers so that you too can find selling fun, fulfilling, and mutually rewarding.

When something I share with you strikes an “ah ha” moment for you, please share it. The purpose of business is making sales. The purpose of heart centered business is listening first so as to make sales that help customers buy products and/or services which solve a problem or achieve a desired outcome. Sometimes we get lucky and do both at once. So, even though the goal of all my sites is to make sales, most people who read these articles will never become my customers unless for an occasion book referral or small purchase. In these cases especially, sharing you “ah ha” moments gives me an emotional payment. It is such a joy to know that as a writer and speaker I’ve connected.

Jul 22

Thank you Tech Support

By John Aberle | Blogging , customer service

Customer service

Tech support affects customers' image of the company

I love working with other professionals who have skills and knowledge I don’t have. This post is a thank you to four talented people who pulled my blogging bacon out of the fire.

I’ve been tied up for a few days now trying to correct the fact that my blog’s front page would not redirect to the full page article. I thought the problem was due to having tried to do a backup and having it lock up on me. So I loaded an old back up on an alternate domain name on my other hosting account, HostGator.

There were technical challenges with the restore. Continue reading

Jul 18

In Emails, Should You Greet or Not Greet?

By John Aberle | Sales and Marketing , Social Networking

I’ve heard one of the foremost people in Internet marketing state that he doesn’t respect emails that come with a greeting. He wants to get right to the point. I find this ironic because the whole issue with social networking is to be social and to be personal. So the social networking question becomes, to greet or not to greet.

Ever since the advent of the computer, people have complained about being treated like numbers. I realize we are in the age of Twitter and the microwave mindset; nevertheless, in my experience, people still want to be treated like individuals. They want to count, not to be lost due to false efficiency.

Email – Greeting or No Greeting

Is using no greeting a false efficiency?

Is dropping the greeting a false efficiency?

I will admit that I have changed my standard greeting, especially for e-mails, to “Hi, (person’s first name).” I find it much more warm and friendly than just blurting out the message and signing off. Eliminating a quick greeting, like “Hi, Joe,” just doesn’t seem like that much efficiency to me. What did it take to type that? Two, three seconds? That means Continue reading

Jul 09

How to Avoid Looking Stupid When Asking Questions

By John Aberle | heart-centered , Sales and Marketing , Sales Calls

Dunce on Stool

How to Avoid Feeling Stupid When Asking Questions

I’ve often wondered why salespeople have such a hard time asking questions that dig deeply enough to understand what their customers want. I’ve seen consultants do the same thing. The danger is that we make assumptions and then propose the wrong solution. Because the customer either recognizes immediately that it won’t work or maybe tries it before discovering it doesn’t work, we’ve lost credibility and trust.

Among the many reasons I’ve discovered for not asking enough questions, is that people are afraid of looking stupid when asking questions. They figure that what the prospect just said is probably something they should know so they ignore it or try to bluff their way through it. The result of this approach is to fail to cover something that’s really important to your potential customer, try to fake it when making your presentation about how your products and services will take care of that issue – which you mention but didn’t really understand so your solution looks dumb, or you propose a fix to something that was really a surface issue and not important.

When you operate from a heart-centered, soft sell sales and marketing viewpoint, it should make sense that you want to come across sincere and trustworthy. You do this largely by taking time to ask the questions for understanding. People forgive a lot of mistakes if they feel you really care about helping them. This presupposes, of course, that you actually have the in-depth product knowledge necessary to recognize the solution needed once you understand their concerns.

Two key points before you get into your sales call:

  • Put your attention on really helping your prospects solve their needs or reach their dreams. The more you focus on the other person, the more you will be able to put the pressure of making salesContinue reading
Jul 03

Social Networking Tip – How to Comment on Other Sites

By John Aberle | Social Networking

Social networking means sharing

When commenting on other sites, you share insights into your views

Have you noticed how people resist change? Change involves risks. We never know when we make a change if we’re going to be better off or worse off. So what can a heart centered salesperson or marketer do to encourage prospects to change to his or her products and services? The answer is to find ways to reduce the risk. One of those ways is to use social networking to develop relationships. This social networking tip describes how to comment on other sites.

Commenting on other sites is a form of social networking as attraction marketing

With the emphasis today on attraction marketing, Continue reading

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